Trauma, Bonding and Autism: Part 1 _Cases

Matters of the heart go back to our very first moments. They can be obstacles to our flourishing, long after the traumatic event has passed.

When I work with children, I meet with Mom (and dad) before I meet the child. We explore the significant moments during the pregnancy and the birth process.

Often, a mom will tell me, "They kept giving more Pitocin to get the contractions. I kept telling them it's not working. In the end I needed an epidural." I see birth trauma in both mother and child.

At best, the child can be very guarded. In more serious cases, the child is unable to connect with others.

I start our work together by giving a remedy that helps the child to open the heart, to feel safe, to relax and trust. We restore a natural flow of the heart/mind to pave the way for the child to step into her own energy, her own essence.

Resolving Birth Trauma helps Mom and Child to Bond

A mom emailed me right away to share her excitement after her daughter took the remedy.

“Tonight she lay on my shoulder and relaxed into the connection we felt. This is so rare with her. Most of the time, she feels tense, except when she's sick. She asked, while lying there on my shoulder, 'Mama, I didn't use to lie like this—do you think it could be the pills?' I asked if she felt different and if she wanted to be close like this before but couldn't. She answered yes to both questions. I am amazed!!”

The remedy that healed the traumatic birth process helped them to bond better, with more ease. The girl needed another remedy for her asthma and frequent cramping.

Another four year old girl opened to her mother for physical affection.

“Mommy, you’re so cozy. I want to go next to you,”

she began to tell her mom when she sat next to her. When upset, she kissed her mom. She even started to kiss her younger brother. Before, she expressed her insecure love with blackmails.

A child's love is precious. It's pure, simple and embodied. It's complete in the moment — there's no "forever," no "if's and then's." It heals both parent and child.

Healing Birth Trauma Restores an Autistic Boy’s Development

Giving a child on the autism spectrum a remedy to heal his birth traumas can be dramatic. It's like finding a key that unlocks many doors.

At 1 year old, Kenny stopped talking, stopped babbling and stopped eating many of the foods he liked.

His parents could pinpoint the day it happened. He had a rash, an earache and a fever that continued for 2 weeks after his MMR vaccination. After that, he stopped responding to his name and he stopped smiling. He could no longer hold his milk bottle. He had a blank stare.

At one and a half years old, he was diagnosed as autistic, and received daily therapies. We started to work together soon after he turned two years old. As his microbiome healed, his runny nose cleared and he started to communicate more. Everyday, his parents noticed that he was learning something new. He could sweat again. He was no longer bumping into people and things.

After a year, Kenny's progress stalled. I revisited the circumstances of his birth and decided to give him a remedy to heal his birth trauma. His mother's labor had been very difficult. She needed Pitocin to induce labor and two epidurals.

Kenny had a huge breakthrough after taking the remedy for his birth trauma. His mother reported,

“It's just amazing! He started to draw faces on his own, with two eyes, a smile and says, 'Happy face!' He looks outside and tells us the temperature. If something affects me, he will ask, 'What's wrong?' If he does something he's not supposed to, he apologizes without prompting. If someone pushes him, he'll say, 'Oh, you bumped me! Say sorry!' Daily skills like getting dressed are falling into place. He pretends when he's playing. He's a superhero. He likes to play cars crashing, so that he can be a doctor, a policeman, a fireman, rescuing people."

When we see this, the child is starting to (re)emerge from his own world and connect with the world around him. His heart-mind is blossoming.

Rote phrases evolve into sentences that he puts together himself. They're glimpses into his world and his attempts to share his experience. He's interested in trying new things. He imagines scenarios in pretend play. He's curious about other children. He initiates contact. He feels what others are feeling and expresses concern and empathy.

In short, he is feeling out relationships.

Kenny is now six years old. I have given him other remedies, including one that addressed his pre-birth trauma that helped to improve his motor coordination and speech. He's no longer receiving daily speech and occupational therapy. One by one, his "disabilities" have fallen away, and his struggles are those of a typical six year old child.